Elizabeth (Bets) Benford 1941-2018

In Memoriam:
Elizabeth (Bets) Benford


My dear friend Bets died early this morning, 2/20/18.

Three years ago, on an anniversary of Stew’s death and David’s birthday, Bets and her partner Mike Pincus wrote this poem. Today Art and I celebrate Bet’s life and mourn her passing.

Vas machts du Stew?
And David, nu?
We gather to remember you.
Veterans of Woodstock Nation
Survivors despite our alienation
Come now and join our celebration.
A day of passing, a day of birth
There’ll be some tears
We’ll share some mirth
Of stories, there will be no dirth.

January 30, 2015

The Fuggit List (2013)

by Elizabeth (Bets) Benford

Bets Benford, retired lawyer, writer and second-wave feminist, came to San Francisco in 1967 and stayed. She learned the vicissitudes of partnered life and wrote The Fuggit List in a Scheherezade-like attempt to keep Judy’s husband, David, alive and amused.

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